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"I have learned that people will forget what you said; people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

--Maya Angelou

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Relationships are extremely important in the mental growth of a person.

In love

A healthy relationship helps to cope better with every day stressors, and a tremendous source of support.

On the flip side, a relationship that isn't working can be a huge emotional drain. The good news is that, even if your relationship is on the rocks, you can take steps to repair trust and rebuild a connection.

Relationships take work, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and change through life as a team. But the rewards far outweigh the effort. In fact, they make life worth living.


    You were born preprogrammed to bond with one very significant person — your primary caregiver, probably your mother.

    Like all infants, you were a bundle of emotions — intensely experiencing fear, anger, sadness, and joy. The emotional attachment that grew between you and your caregiver was the first interactive relationship of your life, and it depended upon nonverbal communication. The bonding you experienced determined how you would relate to other people throughout your life, because it established the foundation for all verbal and nonverbal communication in your future relationships.

      Insecure Attachments

      Insecurity can be a significant problem in our lives.

      It takes root when an infant's attachment bond fails to provide the child with sufficient structure, recognition, understanding, safety, and mutual accord.

      Did you know? Emotional insecurities might lead to:

      • Tuning out – If a parent is always busy or self-absorbed, children may shut down and learn to avoid any intimate connections. As adults, they may act emotionally distant or cold towards their partners.
      • Insecure relationships – If a parent is inconsistent, the child may become insecure and fearful, and unsure what to expect. As grown adults, they may be the type that are attentive and caring one moment and cold the next.
      • Aggressiveness and anger – Children of abusive parents can, as grown adults, become insensitive to their partner’s needs and may have difficulty with love and trust.
      • Slow development – Children may experience physical and cognitive delays, which can lead to mental problems and social difficulties as adults.

      Source: Helpguide

        Relationships Types in Adults

        Just like with children, four styles of attachments have been identified in adults.


        John Bowlby first introduced attachment theory to help explain the nature of attachments between children and parents.

        Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver took it a step further, and studied how these attachments affect future relationships in grown adults.

        They identified the following attachment types:

        • Anxious-Preoccupied

        • Dismissive-Avoidant

        • Fearful-Avoidant

        • secure


        People who have this attachment style tend to be proccupied with the way they are perceived by others. They constantly worry about their level of intimacy in their relationship.

        They tend to become overly anxious and are often seen as "clingy" by their friends and family. This constant need for approval and intimacy often pushes other people away; and becomes one of the major causes for the breakup of a relationship.


          People with this attachment style tend to prefer to be emotionally distant in relationships. They often have a desire for a high level of independence and little intimacy with their partner.

          It is quite common for them to view their partner less positively than they view themselves. People with a Dissmissive-Avoidant style see emotions and feelings as a sign of weakness, and this is generally perceived as a cover up for a fear of rejection.

          Hence, they reject those whom they feel most vulnerable too. In this case, their relationship partner. And last, they often make poor candidates for therapy due to their dismissive nature and denial.


            People with this attachment style tend to be fearful of getting close to others. This is a similar style to the Dismissive-avoidant. However, these people view their partner (or potential partner) as above themselves; and they typically have problems with self-esteem. Another difference is that they have a desire for emotional closeness, but feel vulnerable doing so.

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